incident-postmortem · 2026-04-10
Why a drop in physical closeness is a symptom, not a diagnosis.
Case. Physical closeness became rare; both are anxious but avoid the conversation.
Model. Often it’s not a cause but an indicator: fatigue, grievances, a depleted emotional bank show up through closeness.
What helped. They worked not “on the symptom” but on accumulated tension and a lack of everyday warmth; brought back small gestures of closeness outside the bedroom.
Lesson. Closeness is repaired through warmth and talk, not through demands.
See Emotional bank.
Case is synthetic and anonymized; any resemblance to real people is coincidental. Not therapy or legal advice.
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