Case. One partner anxiously monitors the other’s social media: who liked, who they replied to.
Model. Total surveillance of another’s traffic isn’t safety but distrust that destroys the system itself. Control scales to infinity and never satisfies anxiety.
Protocol. Replace control with agreed transparency and work on the anxiety itself, not on the partner’s phone.
Lesson. Trust can’t be secured by surveillance — only by agreements and predictability.
See Roles & access.