protocols · 2026-04-12

Different needs for closeness

When one needs it more often and the other less — with no “right” or “guilty”.

Case. The partners have different needs for closeness; each feels rejected or pressured.

Model. Different parameters of one system, not a breakdown. Pressure and avoidance only deepen the mismatch.

Protocol. Speak of the need directly and without blame; find a rhythm comfortable for both; separate closeness from “proof of love”.

Lesson. There’s no “right frequency” here — there’s an agreement between two.

Case is synthetic and anonymized; any resemblance to real people is coincidental. Not therapy or legal advice.

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