Surveys by marriage milestone
Every length of marriage has its own tasks and its own risks. What matters at year five differs from what matters at year thirty. These surveys are tailored to each milestone based on research on relationship stages: take yours and see what's worth strengthening right now. Everything runs in your browser.
Milestone 5 years: the system settles in
By five years the honeymoon ends: kids, chores and roles arrive. Research shows a dip in satisfaction after ch…
Milestone 10 years: routine and individuation
By ten years the main enemy isn't conflict but routine and autopilot. The task is to keep interest in each oth…
Milestone 15 years: reevaluation and midlife
By fifteen years reevaluation often arrives: “why are we together”, teenage kids, accumulated grievances, a pe…
Milestone 20 years: just the two of you again
By twenty years the “empty nest” approaches: kids become independent and the couple is alone again. Research s…
Milestone 30 years: maturity and legacy
By thirty years come retirement, much more time together, health and caregiving. The tasks are to fill shared …
Not sure of your exact tenure, or “between milestones”? Pick the nearest — the stages' tasks overlap. And the living experience of those who've passed these milestones is in “Wisdom of long marriages”.