Methodology & sources
These tests are not "psychology from the internet". Each tool draws on a recognised scientific model of relationships. Here is an honest account of which one.
Important. We adapt researchers' ideas into short reflective tools. These are not validated clinical questionnaires and not a diagnosis — they are a way to pause and see what to repair.
Attachment theory
Source: Bowlby, Ainsworth; later Sue Johnson (EFT)
Basis for tests on secure connection, partner responsiveness and "emotional bids".
The Gottman Method
Source: John & Julie Gottman, "Love Lab"
The "Four Horsemen", love maps, the 5:1 positive-to-negative ratio — the ground for the communication-destroyers and resilience tests.
Triangular theory of love
Source: Robert Sternberg
The maturity-of-love test: intimacy, passion, commitment.
Investment Model of commitment
Source: Caryl Rusbult
The commitment test: satisfaction, investment, alternatives.
Couple burnout
Source: Ayala Pines
The relationship emotional-burnout test.
Equity theory
Source: Walster, Hatfield
The give-and-take balance test.
Differentiation of self
Source: Murray Bowen, David Schnarch
The test on staying yourself while close to someone.
Forgiveness in relationships
Source: Everett Worthington, Frank Fincham
The test on the ability and readiness to forgive.
Principles we hold to
- Privacy by default. Tests run in your browser; results are not sent to a server. We collect no personal data.
- No pressure. Tools help you understand — they do not scare or label.
- A crisis is normal. Almost every couple goes through a decline in feelings; the task is to understand, not to run.
- Honest boundaries. We are not psychotherapy or legal help — in an acute crisis see where to turn.