Review our fight

Strong couples review fights like engineers review an incident: not "whose fault" but "what broke and how to fix it". Go through it calmly, ideally together, a day after the conflict. Notes are private and stored only in your browser.

What was the spark? (an event, a fact — no judgment)

What did I actually feel? (under anger there's usually hurt/fear)

Which of my needs was touched? (closeness, respect, safety…)

What's my part? What did I do that escalated it?

What might my partner have felt and needed?

What can we do differently next time? (one specific thing)

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