Expectations check

Many fights come not from “incompatibility” but from expectations no one spoke out loud. Answer 15 statements separately, swap codes — and see where you align and what's worth discussing. Everything runs in your browser and is sent nowhere.

  1. Money is best managed as one shared budget.

  2. We split household chores roughly equally.

  3. Important decisions are made only together.

  4. Parents shouldn't interfere in our decisions.

  5. Kids are a priority, but the couple stays a couple.

  6. We talk about problems right away, not bottle them up.

  7. Personal time and space for each of us is normal.

  8. We discuss faithfulness and boundaries openly.

  9. In a fight we take a pause and don't decide on emotion.

  10. Family holidays and traditions matter to us.

  11. Faith and shared values are the anchor of our family.

  12. Each of our careers matters equally.

  13. Time off together matters more than apart.

  14. Closeness and tenderness are needed regularly, not occasionally.

  15. Seeing a therapist when it's hard is normal.

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