framework / disaster-recovery

Disaster recovery

The acute-crisis protocol: Safe Mode over Hard Reset, and no heavy requests to an overloaded partner.

The problem

At the peak of a crisis a partner is overloaded — work, money, health, conflict at once. That is exactly when the heaviest request often arrives: an ultimatum. A heavy request to an overloaded system takes it down for good.

The engineering model

A Hard Reset — divorce on emotion, a hard shutdown under load — almost always corrupts data. Safe Mode lowers load and keeps the core alive. Reduce load first, repair later.

Protocol
  1. Make no irreversible decisions in the first 24 hours.
  2. Switch to Safe Mode: quiet, basic routine, no ultimatums.
  3. Reduce external load; close the perimeter to advisers.
  4. Agree to discuss later, once the load drops.
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  • Do not issue ultimatums to an overloaded partner.
  • Do not perform a Hard Reset on emotion in the first 24 hours.
  • Do not drag spectators into the incident.

Based on systemic family therapy and Gottman Institute research. Verify against primary sources.